CHANGING THE NARRATIVE
Negative emotions. We all experience them. It’s part of being human. However when life feels especially full on, it can be hard to deal with them on top of our neverending to do list/looking after everyone else/work deadlines etc. Sound familiar?
Modern life allows us to ignore our emotions constantly, to live almost in a state of numbness whilst distracting ourselves with our phones, music, TV, podcasts… the list goes on. But how often do you allow yourself to sit with your emotions? Good or bad?
In fact there is no such thing as a “bad” emotion. We’re taught from a very young age that we are not allowed to feel certain emotions such as anger or jealousy. But this is all part of the magical spectrum of being a human being. Life is full of ups as well as downs, and sometimes we experience all of it in the space of day. The most important thing to remember is that you are not your emotions, and what you feel is no reflection on you as a person.
The more you start to check in with your emotions on a regular basis, the more you can be a better support for yourself and for those you care about. When you feel something negative it can be so easy just to push it away, to the bottom of the pile, to the back of your head. This is very similar to a pot of boiling water, the more you ignore it and the longer you leave it- eventually that pot of boiling water is going to cause a bit of a mess.
It’s the same with your emotions (each and every one of them). When we check in and recognise the emotion present, and do so with kindness, it starts to dissipate- and a hell of a lot quicker than when we slam the door on it.
So here’s some techniques to help you when you’re finding it hard to deal with the emotions you’re experiencing. Go with whatever tool calls you the most, or perhaps try a combination of them all. It can also be great to find one which resonates and start to add this into your daily practises.
Finally, remember to treat yourself with kindness and patience and know that this too shall pass.